Can I claim marriage expenses instead of alimony in divorce?

Due to irreconcilable differences, I have decided to separate from my husband. I want to understand the legal steps to initiate the process. Instead of alimony, can I claim all the expenses incurred by me and my family during and after the marriage, including banquet hall costs, furniture, electronics, cash gifts, clothes, sarees, gold, and silver? I have communicated my decision to my husband, but he is in denial and says I am free to do whatever I want. We have been living separately for a month, and there has been no communication from his or his family's side to reconcile. Before leaving his house, I also discovered through a friend that my husband is active on a dating app.